Not too long ago, I was playing chess with a dear friend of mine. She said she had not played in a long time. I thought this would be a quick game. I had no doubt I would easily win. She on the other hand, smiled and studied the board intently. I arrogantly tried to talk her into giving up the game and handing me the win. She refused despite the fact that she was slowly but surely losing her pieces. I even explained a few rules and moves along the way - just to help her out, you see. After all, I wanted to appear like a gentleman.
"Do you want to start a new game?" I asked her. "No. Let's finish this one. I'm going to win.", she replied in soft confidence. I couldn't see how she could ever think that she could ever beat me. Yet her smile remained and she never spoke a single word of defeat.
"Yes, John. I won."
I studied the board, trying to find a way out. There was none to be found. She had won. My king was dead.
Did she hustle me? No. She had taught me my own lesson. Despite the obstacles, despite the seemingly hopeless odds, she remained confident, never speaking negative word - she won.
Friends, despite your past, your family's and friends' attitude, the only opinion that counts is yours. The moment you speak negative words in your life, you speak defeat into your life. Yes, the circumstances dictate that your boat is sinking. However, it doesn't mean you need to sink with it. Maybe you need to take a new direction in your life. Maybe you need to consider other options like learning a new vocation or opening a new business. Whatever it may be, unless you're laying flat on a cold slab, there's always a way out of your dilemma and a way into a brighter future.
All winners in life have four character traits and employ them successfully. They:
- Think Like a Winner.
- Speak Like a Winner.
- Surround Themselves with Winners.
- Act Like a Winner.
In the next four articles in this series, we will explore these character traits individually.
Charles Kinsley said, "The people whom I have seen succeed best in life have always been cheerful and hopeful people who went about their business with a smile on their faces."
Resolve today to think, speak, act and surround yourself with winners. When you win, encourage others that they too can win.
Your life will change for the better.
Johnny Rivera (c) 2009